Some parents hardly accept that their children grow and become adults, with independent lives. For many of them, recognizing the transformation of their children into adults who do not need them like they used to is known in psychology as “the empty nest syndrome”, being the equivalent of an inner void, associated with the idea of loneliness, futility, or losing control, possibly even a sense of having to go to an assisted living Amarillo center instead of staying home and having their children take of them as they age. These feelings can occur when the children leave their parents' home to continue their studies, start living their own life, set up their own family or the type of relation they need.
Sometimes these feelings are extreme and negatively affect the parent-child relationship. Expectations expressed in the form of "I always hoped you will stay with us", "I did not think you would leave us after all we did for you" are extremely toxic.
Children are not personal accessories that we bring into the world to complement us or to fulfill our existence. The relationship with them does not have to be based on "I give you, you give me", because in this case it is not a healthy relationship, but a business affair, even if we try to disguise it into something more noble.
It's hard to provide communication tips for parents and adult children, because there are so many types of relationships and challenges that could never be covered entirely. The basic idea is that both sides have a healthy attitude, without mistaken love for dependence and emphasize mutual acceptance without forcing themselves into the other people`s lives and without creating pressure.
Originally Posted here: Communication Tips For Adult Children And Parents
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